My son says hes gay
Help! My Son is Gay
by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director
“So should I push my son towards women now?” That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with identical gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality. But the respond to their son’s effort is not to shove him into the arms of a woman. In fact, such a advance could actually do more damage than good.
But what should a dad do for his son? In a word: connect! I realize when saying that many dads might think, “I am associated to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.” But the fact is that simply being present doesn’t mean you have any kind of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can hear and understand. Proclamations of facts do small to move his heart. He wants words dripping with raw emotion and heart-felt passion. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him. In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in hi
Dear Dr. G.,
I am beside myself. My year-old son and I got into a bit of a heated argument this weekend and in the midst of it my son said he's gay. I was so shocked that I ignored his comment and ended the argument. I have spoken to my husband about this. My husband says that he has always consideration that our son is gay and that if he's gay, he's lgbtq+. My husband seems decent with this.
I feel differently. Could my son just have said this because he was angry at me and wanted to upset me? Or, maybe he's just going through a phase. Should I have another conversation with him about this? Should I take him to a therapist? There are no other gays in our family as far as I know.
A Distraught Mother
Dear Mother,
First and top you need to rest down, regroup, and get several deep breaths. Exhale deeply as I explain you what I ponder. Please try not to be in panic mode. It is highly unlikely that your son told you that he is gay simply to upset you. Gay kids often tell their parents about their sexuality in the middle of a contest because they feel that they have nothing left to lose since
What I Did When My Year-Old Son Came Out as Gay
My son was 11 years antique when he told me he was bisexual. I honestly would’ve been less surprised if he’d pulled out a switchblade and told me he’d unified the Warriors road gang.
“Thank you for confiding in me,” I told him. I only knew to say that because I was the last parent in my social circle with a kid to appear out as either gay, bi or gender nonbinary. A global survey conducted in 27 countries (including the U.S.) and released last June found that nearly 1 in 5 young adults — those born after , otherwise known as Generation Z — distinguish as something other than straight.
But you know what doesn’t help when you’re sitting in a car with your year-old as he tells you that he’s sexually attracted to both boys and girls? Statistics. You could reveal me 1 in 5 Gen Zers are growing goatees, and my first thought would still be, My son is too adolescent for a goatee!
According to Christy Olezeski, the director and cofounder of the Yale Pediatric Gender program, my first reaction was the right one. “The parent should tell, ‘Thank
5 Powerful Things You Can Execute If Your Child Tells You, "I'm Gay."
You may not hold been expecting to hear the words "I'm gay" from your child. Not only did you never envision it, but your religious beliefs and values also do not align with queer relationships. So, what do you do now? How do you respond to your child telling you they're gay?
As a parent, you may have had the inclination that your child may be gay. As a consequence, the news may simply endorse your suspicions, and the conversation may be easy. On the contrary, you may feel irate or shocked. Likewise, you may struggle with the idea and have a natural tendency to shut down the conversation or put it off as merely a phase they're going through. In reality, regardless of how you feel, the way you respond in the first five minutes could set the tone for your child for years to come.
In this article, we'll discuss the critical moments after your child comes to you and says, "I'm gay." With the help of Dr. Devon Mills is a licensed therapist in Atlanta, GA, we'll emphasize five po