How to know if your gay or not
How do I know if I am gay or lesbian?
Many people are brought up to feel that everyone is sexually attracted to people of a other gender than their own. However, this isn’t the case. Lots of people are attracted to the same gender or more than one gender, and this is absolutely fine.
Gay is the word used to describe someone who is only attracted to the same gender. It can be used to describe someone of any gender, but sometimes gay women might prefer to be referred to as lesbians. People who are attracted to more than one gender often identify as bisexual or pansexual.
How do I know if I’m gay, lesbian or bi?
Some people know what their sexuality is from a very young age, but some people aren’t so sure. It can be challenging to know if you’re lgbtq+, lesbian, straight, bisexual or something else, and there’s no definite way to know, it’s just how you feel.
If you’re a bloke and you’re only attracted to other guys, then you might be gay. If you think of other guys, feel excited when you think about them, masturbate to thoughts of them, and want to date and own relationships with the
by Fred Penzel, PhD
This article was initially published in the Winter edition of the OCD Newsletter.
OCD, as we understand, is largely about experiencing severe and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A study published in the Journal of Sex Research start that among a group of college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. ). In command to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as successfully. Interestingly Swedo, et al., , establish that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.
Although doubts about one’s have sexual identity might seem pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious form is where a sufferer experiences the mind that they mig
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How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay
Particularly when young, some people may ask, "How do I know if I am gay?" if they hold conflicting sexual feelings. When it comes down to it, there is no reliable "Am I Homosexual test", so the only way to know that you are gay (definition of gay) is to look within yourself to determine your own thoughts and feelings towards others of the same sex. You might also crave to consider the possibility that you are neither gay nor straight and are bisexual or just curious.
There are also signs that you might be gay to consider.
Signs You Are Gay
There is no one way that same-sex attracted people act or gaze – gay people are just as diverse as straight people. Just because you are a dude who is effeminate or a woman who is boyish, that does not mean that you're necessarily gay. So don't drop into the trap of thinking that your clothes, hair or attitude determines your sexuality.
When looking at the signs you are gay, you might yearn to ask yourself these questions:1
- Have I ever been sexually attracted to the same sex?
- Do I perceive strong emotional bonds to